Celebrating a 30th wedding anniversary!
Also submitted for the weekly photo challenge.
Celebrating a 30th wedding anniversary!
Also submitted for the weekly photo challenge.
I believe nostalgia has to do with memories that evoke warm feelings. For me, the trigger for nostalgia lies in many things that are simple and familiar – a song, a picture, a season, a smell, an type of encounter, a type of situation, etc.. In my opinion nostalgia can sometimes be misleading and not a true representation of the past, and can perhaps even be dangerous if one wallows in it too much. You may start yearning for a past that can never be duplicated. Nostalgia also ignores the negative things that happened in your past. Perhaps it is a good thing for your sanity, but if those negative experiences still remain unresolved, particularly in the sense of its impact on people around you, you end up with a false sense of reality.
Anyway, I went looking for pictures that could capture the sense of nostalgia for me. It was a dangerous quest, and I got my head buried in old photo albums, a process that would have never ended had I allowed myself to succumb to my overwhelming feelings of nostalgia that the pictures evoked. It was difficult. So I resolved to quickly pick a small and random number of pictures from the many that I encountered. Since nostalgia is a personal thing, I am not sure if any of this will resonate with others who have not been a part of my experiences. Suffice to say, that I have a lot of things that I feel nostalgic about, and that I consider myself quite fortunate in this regard.
The following picture is from my youth. My remember my uncle, a great man, very well. My siblings and I lived a very nice life on a beautiful college campus. We had a lot of friends and were sheltered in so many different ways. I still remember the weekend movies at the Open Air Theater on campus. It was a great place to be!
I used to play field hockey with my friends in school. This is a picture of the school team. We used to compete with other Central Schools.
I do not have pictures from life as an undergraduate student. When I went to graduate school in the US, I lived at a place we called “The Establishment”. I made some new friends.
Life changed after I graduated and started working. We got married and had kids. Those days are also now part the memories.
The following pictures are from a family road-trip that we made about ten years ago.
And this is from another occasion the same year. I still had black hair at that time.
These pictures bring back good memories and fill me with nostalgia. The kids are all grown up these days and are off doing their own stuff. Let the good times continue to roll!
Perhaps I am guilty of hijacking this week’s theme. But I do consider the cousins to have been partners through the years. So here is my submission about long-term partnerships.
And the team continues continues to grow.
One cannot be sure of where the future will take us, but I sure hope the partnerships continue going forward, and that I will be able to continue to chronicle these with pictures through the years.
When I was a young lad growing up in Madras I used to enjoy the trips to Kerala for our summer vacations. It did not take me too long to get bored during my stay in my grandmother’s place once I was there, but the travels on the train were one of the highlights of the summer experience. The romance of these journeys by train never dimmed. Arriving at the train station and wading through the crowds, to try to find one’s reserved compartment at the beginning of the journey; trying to sleep on the berths next to the noisy ceiling fans during the night as the train rocked rhythmically and sped on to its destination; trying to wake up at various points in the night so that I could see all the stations that the train stopped at, and perhaps even buy a cup of tea from a lonely chaiwalla on an empty platform; experiencing a sense of the power of the diesel locomotive while listening to its distant horn in the night – these are just some of the many, many, memories that come back to me as I write this. The train would lurch back as the engine connected to the carriages of the Trivandrum Express at Madras Central Station, the horn would blow just as the train started inching forward into the evening, and from then onwards it was a nonstop adventure until the time we reached our destination. Perhaps I was the only one sitting in the moving train during the daytime with my head against the iron bars of the open window peering towards the front trying to catch a sight of the engine every time it rounded a curve. Was I the only one trying to count the number of carriages on the train? I might have been the only kid with the railway timetable for the Southern Railways in hand trying to figure out where the train was supposed to be at that particular time, watching the hundred meter markers by the side of the tracks and trying to figure out the speed of the train, trying to anticipate when exactly one would arrive at the next station. I most likely was not the only one with my head stuck to the window staring at the passing green fields and coconut groves of the Kerala landscape, watching the local folk go about their the daily activities – magical people living their lives in a faraway enchanted land.
The first train stop in Kerala, after it crossed the Western Ghats, happened to be at a place that used to be called Olavakkot Junction. (The name of this station has since been changed to Palakkad Junction.) If we were lucky we would break journey at Olavakkot Junction and we would make our way over the back roads to my aunt’s place the little village of Dhoni. At that time there was nothing more than a few houses and surrounding farms in Dhoni. But Dhoni was a great place to visit for a vacation. My aunt’s little house with its open front veranda looked out onto wide open spaces and the hills of the Western Ghats. Up in the distance on the hills to the east you could see the trees and the forest, and if you looked up carefully you could even see the dirt road that led up into the woods. Towards the front of the house was a bald hill where I probably experienced hiking and rock climbing for the first time. From the top of the hill, one could survey the surroundings. Getting to the top was a big achievement for me and I would feel a sense of elation. In hindsight, I do not think that the hill was really as imposing as it appeared to me a child, but nothing got in the way of my imagination and the spirit of exploration. I have to imagine that Dhoni these days is not the same as it was when I was growing up. I am sure that the place has developed quite a bit and that one would be quite disappointed if one were to return, not just because the place has changed, but also because the sense of wonder seems to become more scarce as one becomes older, more jaded, and better trained for living and surviving in this world.
So, here I was many years later, a middle aged dude with internal plumbing problems, driving through the mountain passes on Route 15 north of Williamsport, PA, on our way back from Rochester after dropping Christina off at college, still feeling a little bit of that sense of awe and wonder while observing my surroundings. It is not as if the hills of the Alleghenies are one of the great wonders of nature, but it still does not seem to take too much for me to be impressed when I out in the natural surroundings. Hill after hill stretched out in front of me as the lanes of the endless highway weaved a magical path from mountainside to mountainside while leaping over the valleys that lay in between them. Looking at the hills one wondered what it would feel like to be on top of them. My instincts told me that I should explore the mountainsides on foot and look down on the valleys, the lakes, the rivers. So long as it was a new experience in natural surroundings, it had to be interesting. It occurred to me that perhaps in matters such as this I was still an easily impressionable little kid at heart – a kid occupying the mind of one who is supposed to be an adult. Why is it that growing up and becoming a responsible person appears to be a somewhat orthogonal process to finding a way to continue to enjoy the simple and innocent things in life. Something is wrong with the way we are being taught to think in this world.
I wrote this to my family on New Year’s Day 2006 after returning from a trip to India. I have added pictures to the narrative. I hope it was a useful endeavor.
I woke up at 38000 feet, high over the mountains of the Eastern Taurus range of eastern Turkey. This is the birthplace of the Tigris and the Euphrates rivers that call to mind the beginnings of civilization. This is the land of Mt. Ararat and Noah’s ark. I am headed northwest towards the cities of Erzurum, Trabzon, and the Black Sea, skirting Iraq and the trouble spots of Mosul and Kirkuk. The brilliant white peaks stretch all the way to the horizon, seemingly covered with a fresh layer of snow. Below me is the town of Van, on the banks of the Van Golu, one of the big salt water lakes of Turkey. It is a bright and beautiful morning, with not a single cloud in the sky to spoil the wonderful landscape that unfolds before my eyes as I lift the shade that covers the window next to seat 46A. The sun reflects off the silver wing of the giant 747, the shining silver and bright blue on the engine cowling informing me that I am indeed on a British Airways jet. The white contrails from the port engine closer to the fuselage speed past my window. We are moving fast, and I am headed home.
This has been a quick and eventful trip to India. The smell of Chennai welcomed me as I deplaned after the long flight from London. Long unruly lines met me as I proceeded through Immigration. Chaos enveloped me as I attempted to locate my suitcase on the baggage carousel. Arriving at Madipakkam in the wee hours of the morning, sleep escaped me. Finding Mamma sitting on the floor of the kitchen later in the morning on the same day with a bloody gash on her head made it all seem so surreal. Did I need to wake up? Thank God the injury was not serious (although it did need stitches).
The rains of the unending monsoons of Chennai come poring down during the KV Alumni meeting day on the 17th of December. The cricket match with the school kids is rained out with the Alumni team losing more wickets than scoring runs. We are showing our age. It feels great to meet people like Josey George after 30 years! There are many other people to meet and stories to tell.
The roads into Madipakkam are a mess. I am bouncing around in a auto-rickshaw late in the evening in the pouring rain after the KV Alumni meeting, with the driver trying to avoid the potholes that make the road. This is indeed not a road but a collection of holes. An ordinary American vehicle would not last 100 yards without a broken axle! You need an SUV. We make it home safely. Am I still dreaming?
Daddy is admitted to St. Isabel’s Hospital in the middle of town for the hernia operation. I cannot sleep that night because of jet-lag. It is raining outside. The light goes on outside the window and I find Mamma headed for the gate in the middle of the night. This cannot be happening. It seems that the pump that has been turned on (to remove the water that is flooding our yard because of the rain) is not working. The blasted pump needs to be primed at 3:30 am in the morning! It takes me a while to figure out the science of this process and get things going. I must be awake – there is water spurting all over my hand from the pump as I stand in front of it holding a torchlight and spanner in the middle of the dark night.
Multiple trips are made to and from St. Isabel’s Hospital. The roller coaster that is the approach into Madipakkam from Velachery is navigated by taxi each and every time. The road sees its share of stranded trucks and other vehicles. Vehicles maneuver in all directions trying to find a safe path through the water-covered potholes of indeterminate depth.
I spend hours daydreaming in the taxis, stuck in the traffic jams and at the traffic lights of Chennai City itself. Perhaps it is the effect of the pollution on the brain. Maybe it is the mesmerizing effect of the chaos unfolding all around me. Two wheelers, both human and gasoline powered, squeeze into impossible spaces. Vehicles drive on all sides of the road. People risk life and limb in the middle of this mess of traffic. People go about their lives on the roadsides – I am sure there is a story to tell for each and every one of them. Somebody should take this opportunity to study the theories of chaos. Chaos actually works, though perhaps not in the most efficient manner.
Endless hours, most of it uneventful, are spent in the hospital environment, most of the time with a book in hand. I find time to practice my music in a secluded corner of the building. The lazy breeze plays with the curtains covering the window of the hospital room in which I spend many hours conversing with Daddy. I play the role of caretaker as Daddy comes out of surgery. Anxious moments are felt as the doctors deal with the problem of the blockage of urine flow, and when we go down to the ground floor to get the ultrasound tests done. What will the doctor say? I have just finished reading Thomas Merton’s “The Seven Storey Mountain”. Is this all part of the supernatural plan as Merton would lead me to believe? Is this one of things that I was destined to do? I also conclude that it is impossible to play the role of a patient in the hospital unless one is suitably humble. You are put into unusual situations that you would normally not dream of being in. Your real character shows. You will suffer more than you need to if you have too much pride. Between long periods of inactivity I am rushing around trying to get the medicines from the pharmacy, get the hospital bills paid, and get the discharge process completed. It is an environment that I am not familiar with. Nobody seems to care, nobody seems to be in a hurry. I have not woken up from my dream yet.
I get adjusted… The celebrations for our 30 years after graduation from high school takes place at the Gandhinagar Club next to the Adayar river and bridge.
The IIT Madras Silver Jubilee celebration also takes place after couple of days. I see many faces from the old days, several only recognized after some initial conversation. Thank God we are wearing badges with our names on them. What a feeling of nostalgia! A movie is seen at the Open Air Theatre (OAT) for old times sake – Where Eagles Dare. I take a long walk covering the IIT campus in the early morning. Health-conscious joggers do their daily exercises. The deer wander all over the road unafraid of the humans. The IIT Madras campus is still beautiful. We are lucky to have grown up there.
The postponed trip to Bangalore to meet Amma and Appacha takes place. It is good to see them and the rest of the gang. This trip barely lasts a day. It is now time to head home. I am really not that tired in spite of the fact that I am not sure if I am coming or going. When the doorbell rings I do not know what city or time-zone I am in. I am keeping up because I am getting a lot of rest between activities. I come to realize that the Madipakkam environment is really not too bad. The volume of the street music in the morning has gone down – no more speakers from the temple on the street corner. I love to walk on the terrace in the evenings, soaking in the street sounds including that of the buses bringing back the masses after their day at work, feeling the cool of the evening breeze coming in from the sea in the east, and listening to the planes heading to and from the airport. It is time to enjoy the good things in life as they are, and to not get worked up about things that one cannot control.
I am now back in Gaithersburg. I have survived the long flights and third-world toilets of Heathrow’s Terminal 4. It is readjustment time once again. It is cold and cloudy outside most of the time. I have no motivation to get out and do things. Just like me, my car also needs a lot of help to get started once again. It is then back to work on the 3rd. Give me a few days to get used to the changes. Pictures will eventually be posted.
Happy New Year!